Victim Mentality is Damaging You

We are all creators - we create the aspects and circumstances in our life. We are in control of how successful we are, and we are responsible for all that we manifest. Okay, let's be real, these are provocative statements. We are certainly not taught, as we grow through the stages of childhood, that we are in charge of the world that we create, and that we can choose which direction our life goes depending on our desires & intentions.

Instead society teaches us, and experiences seem to confirm, that we are merely victims of our circumstances. Without a miraculous turn of events (usually something interveening outside of ourselves), we are destined to remain in the station of life we are born into.

Sure, we believe in the "American Dream" that if we pull ourselves up by our boot straps and work really hard, we too can become wealthy & independent - unfortunately, this is not the way of abundance for the majority of the population. As a student and teacher of ancient wisdom, the truth that I am responsible for all the circumstances of my life has been a bitter pill to swallow at times. However, it hasn't stopped me from healing and stepping more and more into fully owning my creative power.

Who is a Victim?

Would it be triggering to you if I said that the only time someone is a victim is in the exact moment something is done to them without permission?

It is important for us to confront our biases so that we can build our discernment of reality vs. our subjective illusion. Because our subjective illusion includes all of our biases, our faulty programs, our projected masks, and our repressed emotions. It is both the lens we see the world through, and the world we "think" we see when we look out at it, and it is most certainly the place from which we judge others.

If we are only victims in a single moment in time, what, then, do we become after the experience?

Some areas of thought say that you somehow "signed up" to learn through having bad things happen to you. As if somehow you couldn't possibly learn the same lesson through acts of good - this is the foundation of victim mentality. You agreed to it - its yours to own. THIS IS CRAP!

You DID NOT agree to have bad things happen to you, let's call this an evil act. However, we live in a world where bad things happen against our will. This is why you are a victim the moment evil/wrong is being perpetrated against you and, then, you have complete CHOICE in how you want to react and subsequently behave as a result.

Would it surprise you to know that there is actual empowerment in your choice of response.

Unfortunately, in the world of sensational journalism and drama-filled narratives on social media platforms we are seeing entire generations of people growing up believing that it is right and proper to identify with our victimhood. We have entire social movements dedicated to our victim identity, enrolling other people to confirm our victim stance, and vilifying anyone who does not agree with the victim narrative. This narrative is not a unifying force for good, it is a mental construct that is bent on destruction and separation. Can you see now, just how damaging victim mentality is to our world and to our unity?

Let’s Change the Process

I posit there can be another way of dealing with trauma - one that allows you to heal and allows others to support your healing process without engaging in the story of your pain.

Some trauma is tangible, like a physical injury, while most trauma is intangible. There is no way to doubt trauma when someone is in a motor vehicle accident, or is ra**d, or shot, or any other number of outward traumas. We can triage the wounds, recommend counseling to process the experience, and we usually determine who is at fault and assign blame in these types of traumas.

However, much of the trauma that we suffer is the intangible type of trauma. The mental, emotional and spiritual trauma that shows no outward indication of the pain and suffering endured, and, thusly, we have no clear-cut way of managing the long-term outcome & support required to heal. With a cut or wound, we know what to do to support physical healing and to keep it from getting infected. There is usually a team of people trained in supporting the physical body with its trauma. And, with the modern age of technological and scientific advancements, we can recover from most injuries.

It is not that easy with intangible traumas. Not only are you dealing with something you cannot see or pinpoint, you are also working against societal norms that say, "Just get on with it," or "Don't make such a big deal out of it," or "It happens to everyone." This mentality usually serves to re-victimize and results in repression and energetic damage, first to our energy bodies, then, eventually, to our physical body.

It really wasn't until the Industrial Revolution that doctors became well-respected and trusted by the mainstream world. Before that, those with a calling to study medicine, and even science, were considered wacky and fringe. Doctors, whose main focus is the physical body, its diseases, how it operates, and how to fix it when it malfunctions, are highly trained professionals that generally specialize in specific areas of mastery. They are well respected and necessary to modern society.

We are living through a new revolution, one where energy healers are becoming more mainstream and working with one is now an acceptable way of promoting good overall health. However, we are still in the process of professionalization of our field of service. Energy healers are more focused on the intangible traumas that leave a lasting mark on our energy, emotional and mental bodies. We are trained to understand the inner workings of systems like the chakras, the aura and the soul. And, we gain mastery in how to facilitate energy / light for the purposes of healing the intangible trauma.

The trick is, we need BOTH systems, working together, to really actualize true healing. To free ourselves from victim mentality. To fully understand and accept our creator status. And, perhaps most importantly, to shift our collective narrative away from VICTIMIZATION and into EMPOWERMENT.

Where to Start

There is a saying in 12 Step groups that you need to be sick-and-tired of being sick-and-tired before you're willing to do something about it.

Another way of thinking about this is to consider in your own life, what were the catalysts that made you willing to try something you hadn't tried before? This could be the end of a long-term relationship, getting fired from a job, or ending up entangled in the legal system that becomes the tipping point and motivation to start with deep self-truth telling and a humbleness to ask for help.

For others, it is as simple as one conversation, movie, or a TikTok that provided the inspiration to consider a new perspective on an old problem.

And, for the rare few, a spontaneous spiritual experience (spiritual awakening) - a moment of pure connection and unity with God or the Universe - provided a complete about-face in your life and every moment since then has been spent attempting to understand your experience.

However it happens, you are ready to let go of your victim story and step into conscious creation and self-responsibility and need a clear path to follow.

Here in the mystery school, we begin our path with an activation session called the Life Activation. This session helps you tap into your latent abilities and potential, provides the energy to overcome disempowering patterns and stuck emotions, and sets you on a path of physical empowerment that will serve you for the remainder of your life.

Healing, including your attachment to the old story, is a journey it is not a destination.

The Life Activation is the starting line. Working with a Spiritual Guide to determine a custom path of progression will lay out milemarkers, opportunities for spiritual growth, and someone dedicated to your healing & forgiveness work. The result will be freedom from your victim identity and independence in your self-expression for the rest of your life.

I am here to remind you that all the power that ever was, or will be, is here now.

In Love and Service,

Kelly

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ABOUT KELLY AHO

Kelly Aho is a professional Guide and Healer certified by the Modern Mystery School.

Kelly is dedicated to spiritual progression, professional actualization and overall well-being, and her enthusiasm for the rich & profound tools of this Lineage will shine through in her commitment to your joy, self-actualization & fulfillment.